If you have read my blog over the years, you know how I feel about Valentines Day. I take this opportunity to make my children feel special. It is all about them, from the moment they wake until they go to bed. I just shower them with all these cheesy gifts or crafts of love.
Don’t get me wrong I show them love all the time, but for some reason this holiday is always a big deal and them just knowing I love them or the fact that I show my love all the time is not enough, they need a gesture. So this holiday has become all about them.
I choose to spend Valentines Day this way because I never want them to feel they need these things from anyone else to make them feel loved. Teens especially always feel they need a boyfriend or girlfriend to share this special day with, just because it is the norm.
I want my children to understand it is just a holiday and that they can make it what they want it to be. I do the gifts and crafts because it shows them that they can be apart of the holiday and show love to whomever they love, that being mom, dad, sisters, brothers, grandparents, well you get the point, it is not exclusively for those in relationships.
The things I do for them on Valentines Day are
I always make or buy a card with this long note written on the inside, specifically for them. I use words that describe who they are and why those characteristics are so great to have. I without a doubt express how much I love them and then of course I end with something silly.
I usually decorate their bedroom doors or their bathroom mirror with funny or loving sayings. The goal is to put this somewhere they will see it when they first wake up in the morning. I want them to be wooed all day.
I always leave a little goodie on the kitchen counter with something I hand-made for them to wear or take to school. I like to make jewelry, a pendant, headband, a t-shirt, or just something that displays my love for them. They love wearing what their mom made them for V-Day. The goodie is always something homemade in the shape of a heart. Rice Krispy treats, chocolate, brownies, cupcakes, candy, or whatever I can get my hands on that is deliciously edible.
When they get home from school, if they do not have plans, we make it a night of their meal favorites and movies that are funny or major tear jerkers. The older they get the easier the selection becomes. We are big on musicals in this family so replaying a musical we love and singing along with the movie is definitely a moment only a parent could love.
I end the evening with a personalized poem, flowers, or a balloon just so they end their night on a high. At no moment do I want them to feel they missed out on something because they did not have a boyfriend or girlfriend. That lesson is mostly for the older ones.