I was reading “The First Days of School” by Harry Wong and I came across a statement that read
“The average child receives an estimated 12 minutes of attention each day from his or her parents.”
After reading that statement I looked at each one of my children and mentally started thinking about the time I spend with my children or the amount of attention I give them. I came to the conclusion that this statement is false, at least in my household.
There are 1440 minutes in a day.
I have five children so spreading the attention wealth does get a little tricky from time to time, but I have this inner need to please my children or dazzle them with my wit and charm so I would say I give too much attention at times. My children are in school for roughly seven hours. They all awake at different times so I have that alone time with each of them in the morning, before they even head out for school. My children are not the after school activity types, but the extracurriculars that they do participate in, last for approximately 50 minutes. The rest of the time is mine.
I help with homework, I have two of them help with dinner, we are a family of talkers so we share a lot before, during, and after dinner. I ask each of them
about school daily. One of my children is a born artist, so we are constantly talking about her next project or drawings she has already done.
Now wait, these things do count as attention right?
I mean 12 minutes is nothing. It takes me 12 minutes to eat a meal, which would mean parents are only giving their children attention during dinner. I find that hard to believe.
Anyway who am I to say how much time a parent should spend with their child. I just know in my circle my children are way to persistent to not get the amount of attention they desire, which is more than 12 minutes a day.
What are your thoughts?